When people have problems in their relationships they often say they're having trouble with communication.
But is it really a "communication" problem - or is it actually more of a "connection" problem?
"There is no doubt that there are communication skills that can help people communicate more effectively... When I work with couples, almost everyone is able to demonstrate these skills when interacting with me. They are able to listen to me, take in information and provide me with information about their own experience. A lack of communication skills is relatively infrequent. However, when they try to communicate with their partner, all of those skills go right out the window. How does it happen that two people, who have the basic skill set, go so off course with each other?" (https://www.londonps.ca/blog/communication-problems)
We all want to feel understood, you and your partner both. So if it really is more of a reconnecting problem the tips in the article linked above are a great place to start.
It's not too late to practice connecting!