Hey, can we talk about change and your comfort zone for a minute?
So here's the thing. We can all get a little obsessed with comfort and being comfortable. A little too obsessed maybe?
"I don't feel comfortable about that" we say to shut someone down from something we don't want to talk about.
And I'm not here to slam comfort. Like at ALL. I'm a mighty proponent of comfort! Especially when it comes to things like home, hearth, and friends.
My favorite comfy sweater. The comfort of coffee my favorite way every morning. The comfort of a reliable friend's support. (Ahhhhh. These things are bliss.)
Here's the thing though: the comfort zone cannot be trusted if you seek change.
In fact, if you want to grow, or change a pattern or a habit - you have to flip your thinking around altogether! You have to start seeking DIScomfort!
That's crazy talk, you say! Why would I do that? I'm supposed to be comfortable my whole life!
But ... are you?
Let's say you're tired of your mom calling to complain about how you live your life. Or you're sick of your dead-end job and your annoying boss and you can't take another minute. Or you want to get back to running every morning like you used to.
Here's the thing. Doing the same thing, the comfortable thing is going to lead to .... you got it: the exact same outcome. More arguing. More job suckage. And more feeling like your body misses the outdoors. (What, is something new supposed to magically happen from wishful thinking and doing the exact same thing?)
Change = Discomfort.
There's a reason it's called the "comfort zone." It keeps things predictably the same.
Creative people, successful people, inventors, people who seek to really live and evolve, little children ... actively challenge themselves and seek out new ways of thinking and opportunities that are uncomfortable ...
... and you can too!
(Over time I've discovered it's actually a pretty fun practice to challenge myself to do something a little different - even one small thing like taking the long way home - every day. As a way of life. By saying "yes" to things I would ordinarily say "no" to.)
Just this one little shift in your thinking can - scratch that! - WILL change your life.
Let me say it one more time for the people in the back:
CHANGE FEELS UNCOMFORTABLE.
Let go of thinking you should feel comfortable. Let go of thinking that things have to feel comfortable as any kind of metric to live your life by!
Set some boundaries with mom and tell her you're hanging up the minute she starts criticizing you, and then do it. Go on that new job interview, even though you don't think you've got the qualifications. Start going to bed an hour earlier instead of staring at Netflix, so it's easier to wake up earlier in the morning with time for a run.)
You're going to feel uncomfortable. So what.
Doing all these things isn't a guarantee of success. But being willing to risk and fail IS a requirement for success and change.
Hey, no one's going to make you. These things can be very personal, make you feel vulnerable ... and ultimately are your call. And yes, discomfort is hard. I totally hear that and agree.
AND growth and happiness are built by welcoming opportunities to be with discomfort.
(now who wants to go to that swing dance class with me?)